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The Porn Trap
The Porn Trap
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The Porn Trap: Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography, Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, and Larry Maltz LCSW (Collins/HarperCollins, April 2008) hardcover.
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A groundbreaking, comprehensive and compassionate resource. The Porn Trap is the first book to address the full range of pornography-related problems, which have skyrocketed since the explosion of the Internet in recent years. Based on interviews and dramatic true stories, this book provides help for everyone from the recreational “dabbler” to the compulsive addict, as well as partners of porn addicts. Wendy and Larry Maltz present readers with a wide range of simple but effective healing strategies and techniques.
The Porn Trap helps readers to:
• Identify and evaluate the impact of porn
• Decide whether it’s time to quit using porn
• Learn how to stop using porn
• Rebuild self-esteem and restore personal integrity
• Heal a relationship harmed by porn use
• Develop a thriving and satisfying sexual life without porn
TABLE OF CONTENTS
ACKNOWLEDGMENTS
INTRODUCTION
PART ONE: BECOMING AWARE
1. The Hidden Power of Porn
2. First Encounters
3. The Porn Relationship
4. To See or Not to See – The Consequences of Porn
5. Partners in Pain
6. Hitting Bottom
PART TWO: HEALING
7. Getting Motivated to Quit Porn
8. Six Basic Action Steps
9. Handling and Preventing Relapses
10. Healing as a Couple
11. A New Approach to Sex
12. True Freedom and Fulfillment
RESOURCES
INDEX
ABOUT THE AUTHORS
Advance praise for The Porn Trap:
"An excellent, thoughtful, and hopeful guide providing effective help for those who struggle with our newest and most challenging mental health problem--pornography addiction."
--Patrick Carnes, PhD, author of Don't Call It Love and In the Shadows of the Net
"Larry and Wendy have done a masterful job of defining the problem of porn and giving the reader a marvelous plethora of treatment options. This is a must read for anyone who cares about someone hurt by porn addiction. For those struggling themselves, this book is a lifesaver!"
--Dr. Ted Roberts, pastor, counselor, and author of Pure Desire
“An extremely helpful and much needed resource for a very destructive addiction. The Porn Trap includes clear and practical guidance for healing the emptiness caused by porn. I highly recommend it.”
--Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Getting the Love You Want and Receiving Love
“This intelligent book brings a healing voice to an issue that too often divides and devastates partners—it goes way beyond ‘just say no,’ to offer heart-opening guidance that will help you explore new dimensions of sexual desire and intimacy.”
--Gina Ogden, PhD, author of The Heart and Soul of Sex and The Return of Desire
“With clarity, compassion, and understanding, Wendy and Larry Maltz help readers comprehend the magnitude of the problem and porn’s highly addictive nature. Their vast knowledge of healing and regaining a healthy sexuality embedded in a true relationship, provides readers with a wise and helpful guide.”
--Charlotte Sophia Kasl, PhD, author of Women, Sex, and Addiction and If the Buddha Dated
“Groundbreaking. This is the best book on the market to help compulsive porn users and the people who love them to confront and change this destructive pattern.”
--Barry McCarthy, PhD, author of Men's Sexual Health and Rekindling Desire
“Insightful, well-written, and practical. The Porn Trap is the authoritative text for understanding and overcoming the negative impact pornography has on self, intimacy, and others."
--David Delmonico, PhD and Elizabeth Griffin, MA, authors of In the Shadows of the Net and Cybersex Unhooked
“The Porn Trap offers much needed insight, direction and hope to men and women struggling to escape the net of fantasy, sex, and addiction.”
--Robert Weiss, LCSW, CSAT, author of Cruise Control and Untangling the Web
“Smart and straightforward -- without unnecessary politics, finger-pointing, or moralizing -- The Porn Trap is sure to provide aid and comfort to many men and women."
--Pamela Paul, author of Pornified
"Porn is like junk food--it provides little in the way of real nutrition for your sexual health. If you or your partner are suffering as a result of consuming these empty calories, this important and timely book shows you how to push away from porn and start experiencing the genuine nourishment of real love."
--Ian Kerner, PhD, author of Sex Detox
“The Porn Trap is an important contribution to understanding porn use and recovering from porn addiction. I highly recommend this book.”
--Jennifer Schneider, MD, author of Untangling the Web and Back from Betrayal
“Informative and compassionate, The Porn Trap shows how porn problems can sneak up and trap you in compulsive sexual behavior before you even realize what’s happened. The average reader as well as the seasoned therapist will gain a clear understanding of how to address the problem that now affects millions of people.”
--Barbara Levinson, PhD, RN, LMFT, Center for Healthy Sexuality
The Sexual Healing Journey
The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
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(Quill/HarperCollins, 2001 revised edition, ISBN 0060959649, paperback) provides couples with a comprehensive healing program which goes beyond traditional sex therapy. More than 150,000 copies sold.
The Sexual Healing Journey helps survivors to:
• identify the sexual effects of abuse
• create a positive meaning for sex
• develop a healthy sexual self-concept
• gain control over upsetting automatic reactions to touch and sex
• stop negative sexual behaviors
• improve intimacy with a partner
• learn a new approach to touch and sex
• resolve sexual functioning concerns
Maltz’s “relearning touch exercises” are specifically designed for survivors of sexual abuse. They offer playful, nonsexual ways to learn how touch can be relaxed, safe, and pleasurable--a mutual expression of caring and respect. Says Maltz, “No one should have to suffer through life sexually damaged because of something that happened in the past. Healthy sex is something everyone deserves and can achieve.”
Praise for The Sexual Healing Journey:
"This book still stands as THE MOST IMPORTANT RESOURCE available to survivors concerning sexual functioning and sexual healing. THE SEXUAL HEALING JOURNEY offers essential hope and compassion in addition to understandable explanations and exercises that improve self-awareness, communication, touching, sexual contact and sexual intimacy. I highly recommend it to all practitioners and I routinely suggest it to clients and their significant others as an indispensable resource."
--Chris Courtois Ph.D., author of Healing the Incest Wound
"This is AN EXCELLENT RESOURCE! Wendy Maltz deals directly with the negative effects of sexual abuse while managing to stay a strong advocate for healthy sex."
--Mitchell Tepper, Ph.D., Founder of the Sexual Health Network and SexualHealth.com
"With the compassion and caring that bespeaks her own healing journey, Wendy Maltz has given us a treasure: her clinical anecdotes are poignant, her instructions are thoughtful and clear. THE SEXUAL HEALING JOURNEY will always have a space on my bookshelf, it is a must-read for survivors, therapists and those who care."
--Clyde W. Ford, Ph.D., author of Compassionate Touch
"A MUST-READ for any survivor who wants to experience the pleasures of a safe and loving sexual relationship. Thank you, Wendy, for providing this gentle, empowering guide!"
--Marylin Van Derbur, former Miss America, incest survivor
"This book is a powerful and effective means of restoring and enhancing sexuality in the aftermath of sexual abuse. Wendy Maltz's practical, plain-spoken approach, and specific exercises are a helpful adjunct to therapy, as well as a valuable guide for people who want to address these issues on their own."
--Al Cooper, Ph.D. Director San Jose Marital and Sexuality Center, staff psychologist Stanford University
"THE SEXUAL HEALING JOURNEY allows the sexual abuse survivor to let go of shame and pain from the past and embrace a healthy sexual self. It is a book of heart, hope and answers, and I HIGHLY RECOMMEND IT."
--Claudia Black Ph.D., author of It Will Never Happen to Me
"This highly useful book provides much needed comfort, reassurance, and practical information for survivors of abuse who wish to reclaim healthy sexuality and for the people who care about them...AN INVALUABLE RESOURCE."
--Yvonne Dolan, M.A., author of Resolving Sexual Abuse and One Small Step
“The Sexual Healing Journey is a much need resource for individuals and couples struggling to create healthy, joyous, safe, and loving sexual lives in the aftermath of sexual abuse. Hopeful, clear, practical, and thorough, it makes the process of reclaiming the pleasure of healthy sexuality seem possible and accessible.”
--Ellen Bass, coauthor of The Courage to Heal
“The Sexual Healing Journey is a precious gift for male and female surviors and for those who care about them.”
--Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer
“Men and women who have despaired that their sex lives would never change will find hope and answers in this friendly, encouraging, and essential guide.”
Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal and Allies in Healing
“Wendy Maltz takes her readers carefully, step-by-step, through a program of self-healing. Survivors of sexual abuse, their partners, and their therapists will benefit enormously from this reassuring guide.”
--Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D. author of For Yourself and For Each Other
“Here is the first book to offer sound and detailed guidelines for sexual healing. Wendy Maltz stands out for her remarkable combination of wisdom, creativity and heart. Beyond providing comfort and hope for survivors of sexual abuse, she shows us how specific changes can be achieved. What a rare, useful and encouraging contribution!”
--Harriet Goldhor Lerner, Ph.D., author The Dance of Anger and The Dance of Intimacy
“Wendy Maltz is one of our most gifted healers and she has written a beautiful book. Practical, useful, and long-needed, it will be a gift to many.”
--Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., author Don’t Call it Love and Out of the Shadows
Private Thoughts
Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies with Suzie Boss
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AVAILABLE NOW in a 2008 BookSurge edition.
(BookSurge, 2008, ISBN 1-4196-9070-1, paperback). Based on a groundbreaking study of 100 women, ages 19-66, Private Thoughts explores the intimate world of women’s sexual fantasies: looking at where fantasies come from, how they function, what they mean, and how to change ones that are unwanted. It is entertaining and informative.
Contains a foreword by Beverly Whipple Ph.D.
Ch. 1- Our Most Private Thoughts
Ch. 2- Describing Our Fantasy Style
Ch. 3- Where Sexual Fantasies Come From
Ch. 4- How Fantasies Help Us
Ch. 5- Recognizing Fantasy Traps
Ch. 6- Deep Discoveries
Ch. 7- Guided Explorations
Ch. 8- Healing and Changing Unwanted Fantasies
Ch. 9- Sharing Fantasies with Lovers
Ch. 10- Creating Favorite Fantasies
Private Thoughts was first released under the title of In the Garden of Desire: The Intimate World of Women’s Sexual Fantasies by Broadway Books in 1997. It was quickly chosen as a special selection of the Literary Guild and Doubleday Book Clubs. Foreign rights editions include: British, Spanish, Portuguese, Korean, Italian, German, Dutch, New Zealandish, Chinese, and Canadian.
Praise for Private Thoughts:
“At last, a wonderful and important book that reveals the full power of women’s sexual imagination--to play, to excite, to haunt, to heal. I will recommend it widely.”
--Gina Ogden, Ph.D., author of Women Who Love Sex
“Private Thoughts teaches women to listen to our deepest longings, to honor our visions, and to recognize that our fantasies can be our guides and teachers on the path to wholeness. Read the book and you will find new ways of becoming a fulfilled and ecstatic lover.”
--Margo Anand, author of The Art of Sexual Ecstasy
“Interesting, sometimes titillating, often funny. . .genuinely revealing.”
--THE OBSERVER (London)
“. . .everyone will benefit from the demystification of sex. [Private Thoughts] covers uncharted waters.”
--LIBRARY JOURNAL
“Oh yes! How we need these wonderful, lively, erotic fantasies! Private Thoughts encourages us to know ourselves, deeply and passionately. In a world full of advertizing and media images of sex, it’s refreshing, revitalizing, and empowering to hear real women talk about their discoveries and pleasures.”
--Ellen Bass, coauthor of The Courage to Heal
“Fascinating, reassuring, empowering! Maltz and Boss lead us toward sexual self-acceptance by showing us the infinite variety in women’s sexual fantasies, as well as steps we can take when our fantasies trouble us.”
--Carol Rinkleib Ellison, Ph.D., author of Women’s Sexualities
“A wonderful book. . .an exciting contribution. . .Private Thoughts provides validation for millions of women who may worry or wonder about their sexual fantasies.”
--Beverly Whipple, Ph.D. coauthor of The G-Spot
Intimate Kisses
Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure edited by Wendy Maltz
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(New World Library, 2001, ISBN 1-57731-133-7 hardcover and 1-57731-133-7 paperback) Foreword by Thomas Moore. Intimate Kisses is an erotic, yet sensitive, collection of poems that describe sexual pleasure based on intimacy.
This anthology takes a fresh look at sexual enjoyment, through some of the richest, most penetrating poetry ever written. Included in this anthology are 120 poems by such renowned poets as Marge Piercy, Emily Dickinson, Robert Browning, Rumi, Nikki Giovanni, Sharon Olds, Octavio Paz, Molly Peacock, Anne Sexton, Dorianne Laux, Kenneth Rexroth, Jane Hirshfield, Galway Kinnell, and W.S. Merwin, as well as by dozens of newer voices.
A full-range of sexual pleasure is revealed, as the poems explore different aspects of sexual enjoyment; from anticipating intimacy, through experience, to the pleasure of reflecting back on satisfying sexual times together. These poems provide an excellent way to turn up the heat in a romance. Michael Grosso's words: "Nothing is sexier than the naked mind-nothing more seductive than the inventive imagination."
Praise for Intimate Kisses:
“I am grateful beyond expression for Wendy Maltz’s achievement. It gives me hope by calling on one of the more significant gifts of sexuality--the sensuous pleasure of well-selected, well-mated words.”
--from the foreword by Thomas Moore, author of Care of the Soul and The Soul of Sex
“I have bookmarked half the poems in this book! There is a poem for every mood, every sensibility. These poets help you ponder your own feelings about sexuality and relationships--and read deeper and more truthful into how you feel about what you have, and haven’t, experienced. Reading this book was a total pleasure.”
--Dr. Pepper Schwartz, professor of Sociology, University of Washington, author of The Great Sex Weekend
“These poems illustrate how rewarding sexual interaction is when a conscious connection exists between one’s heart, one’s genitals, and one’s lover. Sex that is enjoyable on many levels catalyzes personal energy and aliveness. It leaves us feeling relaxed in mind and body, as well as content in spirit.”
--from the introduction by Wendy Maltz
Passionate Hearts
Award-winning best-seller now in a ten year anniversary edition!!
Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love edited by Wendy Maltz
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(New World Library, 2007 edition, ISBN-13: 978-1-57731-567-4 paperback, also ISBN-10: 1-58831-567-7 hardcover) Foreword by Molly Peacock. Passionate Hearts is a unique collection of 117 poems that inspire and celebrate healthy sexual intimacy.
In these poems sex is described as sensuous, safe, mutually desired, respectful and caring. Culled from the works of classic and contemporary poets such as, Mollie Peacock, Sharon Olds, Gary Soto, e.e. cummings, Marge Piercy, Raymond Carver, Galway Kinnell, Pablo Neruda and Tess Gallagher, these poems celebrate the joys of sexual connection and expression throughout the life of a relationship, from early courtship to mature love.
“Poetry speaks a universal language,” writes Maltz in the introduction. “Unlike longer prose, which tends to relate more specifically to a character, poems evoke images that resonate for each of us, regardless of gender . . . Because sex itself is a momentary but profound experience, poetry is a perfect medium for exploring the meaning, mystery, and beauty of sex.”
In April of 1997, the Library Journal named Passionate Hearts the #4 Bestselling Poetry book in America. And Passionate Hearts was named AMAZON.COM’S BEST SELLING TITLE OF 1998 in the category “Sex in Literature.”
Praise for Passionate Hearts:
“A lovely collection of contemporary poetry celebrating the tender mystery central to our lives: one human being delighting in another.”
--John Welwood, Ph.D., author Love and Awakening
“Passionate Hearts should be at the bedside of every couple.”
--Harville Hendrix, Ph.D., author Getting the Love You Want
“A provocative source of passion and pleasure. . . an essential addition to any sexuality library.”
--Patricia Love, Ed.D. coauthor Hot Monogamy
“Hot, but also heartfelt. . . an excellently edited selection. We are given visions and vignettes as satiating and stirring as the act itself.”
--Personal Growth Editor, RECOMMENDED READING Amazon.com
“Beautiful collection. . .These poems capture the heat of physical intimacy without sacrificing the warmth of emotional connection.”
--Poetry Editor RECOMMENDED READING Amazon.com
“Beautiful. . . will inspire as well as arouse. . . these poems are sexually and emotionally explicit, yet accessibe and touching in their honest intimacy.”
--Traci Borhani, reviewer
New Age Publishing and Retailing
“Wow!. . . This is the kind of book that puts you in that certain mood and makes you want to pick it up again and again.”
--Noelle Denke, reviewer
The Light Connection
“This is no casual collection of love poems, but an intense gathering of poems which celebrate sexual intimacy and spiritual warmth.”
--Diane C. Donovan, reviewer The Midwest Book Review
Incest and Sexuality
Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing with Beverly Holman
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(Lexington Books, 1987), ISBN: 066914083-X hardcover, ISBN: 066914085-6 paperback. A professional classic. Over 60,000 copies sold.
Written for adult incest survivors, their intimate partners, and therapists, this book is the first to detail how sexuality is influenced by early abuse and explain what steps can be taken to reclaim a positive, healthy sexual attitude.
Praise for Incest and Sexuality:
“This book is a splendid resource for both lay persons and professional; it provides practical self-help information for adult survivors of child sexual abuse and valuable insights for clinicians.” --Suzanne Sgroi, M.D.
“The book is clear, well-organized, and well-written. It fills the gap for in-depth information about the impact of child sexual trauma on the adult survivor’s sexuality. It will serve as a valuable resource to both clinician and survivor.” --Dr. Eliana Gil, author of Outgrowing the Pain
DVDs
RELEARNING TOUCH: Healing Techniques for Couples
Produced by Wendy Maltz, Steve Christiansen and Gerald Joffee. This forty-five minute video, moderated by Wendy Maltz, sensitively demonstrates the relearning touch techniques. Includes interviews with three couples who have used the techniques to improve communication, deepen emotional intimacy and create positive sexual experiences. Although it addresses the concerns of couples dealing with sexual abuse repercussions, non-survivor couples have found the video and the techniques helpful for improving sexual intimacy. Distributed by Intervision Media.
To order call Intervision at 541-343-7993 or info@intervisionmedia.com. (Website)
Praise for “Relearning Touch”:
“As always, Wendy presents a view of sexual intimacy that is loving, healthy, safe, respectful and joyous. Her commentary is informative, reassuring and encouraging.”
--Ellen Bass, coauthor, The Courage to Heal
“Relearning Touch is a wonderful resource for clinicians and clients. It provides many specific exercises that couples and individuals can use to help restore their comfort in their sexuality. It has my highest recommendation.”
--Robert Schwarz, Ph.D., Director of the Institute for Advanced Clinical Training
“Wendy Maltz provides abuse survivors and their partners with clear, practical, and effective techniques that empower survivors to begin reclaiming their birthright of healthy, joyous sexualilty.”
--Yvonne Dolan, M.A., Resolving Sexual Abuse
“Wendy Maltz has been a gift to a generation of survivors. Her gentle, helpful resources for reclaiming sexuality have helped many. This video is a great asset to clinicians and recovering people. Insightful, practical, useful, and well presented.”
--Patrick Carnes, Ph.D., C.A.S., The Meadows Institute, Out of the Shadows
PARTNERS IN HEALING: Couples Overcoming the Sexual Repercussions of Incest
Produced by Wendy Maltz, Steve Christiansen and Gerald Joffee. Moderated by Wendy Maltz.
A forty-three-minute videotape of three couples, one with a male survivor, discussing sexual healing. Especially helpful for partners to understand the impact of abuse on their relationship and how they can work with the survivor to heal. Distributed by Intervision Media.
To order call Intervision at 541-343-7993 or info@intervisionmedia.com. (Website)
Praise for “Partners in Healing”:
“Well done, interesting and compelling. . . high impact, but not sensationalized.”
--Joseph Lo Piccolo, Ph.D., University of Missouri Sexuality Program
“A well-organized program. The couples are articulate and address a variety of problems. Wendy is excellent. . . a clear, natural and caring presentation.”
--Lonnie Barbach, Ph.D., author, For Yourself and For Each Other
“My clients have benefited greatly from exploring the issues so effectively raised by the video. Both therapists and clients will find the tape a valuable resource.
--Eliana Gil, Ph.D., Outgrowing the Pain
Posters
The following posters are free and easy to download with programs that read pdf files. You can download them in two sizes: 8 ½” X 11” (standard letter size) or 11” X 17” (tabloid poster size).
Feel free to make as many copies as you like and share them with others as you desire. They are designed as an educational tool and can be posted at home, work, or school settings.
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Do You Know the Difference? (Porn-related Sex vs Healthy Sex)
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