Catherine McCall, a licensed marriage and family therapist and author of the sexual abuse healing memoir,When the Piano Stops, recently interviewed Wendy for a series of articles she is writing on sexual healing for her very popular Psychology Today recovery blog. In the first article,“The Sexual Effects of Sexual Abuse”, she discusses how important it is to healing for our society to overcome silence regarding the topic of sexual effects. She goes on to recommend The Sexual Healing Journey as a crucial healing resource. Catherine also identifies sexual abuse is a primary risk factor in sexual health, dysfunction, and intimacy problems, and lists some common sexual problems often experienced by survivors.
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About the Healthy Sex Blog
Welcome to the Healthy Sex blog. Here we share the latest news and information about Wendy’s media interviews, presentations, and publications. You can find blog posts listed according to topic categories such as Sex & Love, Sex Abuse Healing, Sexual Fantasy, Porn Recovery, Reflections on Sex, and more – as well as by the date posted.
Reflections on Sex (RoS) posts
“Reflections on Sex” is a special category of blog posts featured in the Healthy Sex blog. It is sometimes referred to using the abbreviation, RoS. These blog posts serve as a running column, like a newspaper column. In these writings, Wendy shares the most fascinating ideas and insights she gained about sex in her more than forty years of work as a sex educator and therapist. New “Reflections on Sex” blog posts are published periodically and are highlighted on this page. To find out as soon as one is posted follow Wendy Maltz on Twitter or Facebook for announcements.
“Reflections on Sex” provides me an exciting opportunity to examine sex from old and new perspectives and share stories and ideas I haven’t written about before. I’m eager to tell you about the people, experiences, and discoveries that caught my attention and influenced my life. I hope you will find my observations entertaining as well as informative. Perhaps they will inspire you to reflect on your own journey with sex, how your views about it have changed, and what sex means to you.
Wendy Maltz
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Newly Released: “The Sexual Healing Journey” new 3rd edition!
The Sexual Healing Journey has just been released in both print and electronic format in by William Morrow Paperbacks/ HarperCollins publishers.
Originally published two decades ago, The Sexual Healing Journey is a is considered “the primary resource” for understanding and healing the intimate sexual problems caused by sex abuse. In this third edition, Wendy Maltz keeps this classic recovery book fresh with a new preface, revised materials, and an updated, expanded resource section. Compassionate and enduring, this guide presents a comprehensive program for healing that combines expert clinical advice with innovative exercises, steadfast techniques, and deeply moving stories of individuals who have overcome the challenges of sexual abuse to reclaim sex as safe, loving and enjoyable.
“This classic self-help book offers sound and detailed guidelines for sexual healing. Wendy Maltz stands out for her remarkable combination of wisdom, creativity, and heart.”
—Harriet Lerner, Ph.D., author of The Dance of Anger??
“Clear, non-judgmental, warm and hopeful, The Sexual Healing Journey is a precious gift for male and female survivors and for those who care about them.”?
—Mike Lew, author of Victims No Longer
“Men and women who have despaired that their sex lives would never change will find hope and answers in this friendly, encouraging, and essential guide.”
–Laura Davis, coauthor of The Courage to Heal and author of Allies in Healing ??
Wendy Discusses “The Sexual Healing Journey”
Wendy Maltz was the featured guest on Wendy Strgar’s LA Talk Radio show, “Lunch with the Loveologist.” Wednesday, June 13th at 12 noon PST. She discusses how couples can recognize and heal from the sexual problems caused by past sexual abuse and also talk about the new release of Wendy Maltz’s book, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse (William Morrow, 2012 revised 3rd Edition)
The podcast can be heard at: http://daily.goodcleanlove.com/podcasts/2012/06/13/healing-from-sexual-abuse-with-wendy-maltz-lcws-dst/
“Sex After Sex Abuse” – Wendy shares in Salon.com article
How can a woman overcome her dislike of sex after experiencing on-going sexual abuse in a past relationship? This question is addressed in a Salon.com article, “Sex After Sex Abuse” by Tracy Clark-Flory who interviewed Wendy for ideas on sexual healing. One of the main points is that sexual problems are normal and understandable for people who have experienced sexual abuse. The article recommends Wendy’s book, The Sexual Healing Journey, as a great source for learning and exercises for sexual healing as well as her “relearning touch” exercises.
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For a video of Wendy discussing “Sex after Sex Abuse” on healthyplace.com.
Requires some patience watching – but worth it.
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Teens and Cyber Porn — A Problem-Prevention Curriculum
Christopher Mulligan LCSW of cybersolutionstoday recently interviewed Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST, on “The Impact of Cyber Porn on Teens.” Aware of the serious problems to teens arising from habitual porn use, this article explores how parents can help educate and protect their children from negative consequences of porn use, and help guide them on a path to being able to experience sex as loving and intimate as they mature.
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“How Sex Abuse Can Affect Your Physical Health” (new article by Wendy)
HOW SEXUAL ABUSE CAN AFFECT PHYSICAL HEALTH
By Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST (first appeared in Bottom Line Health, Dec. 2011)
Sexual abuse—be it recent or years ago—is often linked to mental health problems such
as depression and anxiety in the estimated one in four women and one in six men who have been sexually assaulted before the age of 18.
Now:A growing body of evidence now links a history of molestation and/or rape to a wide variety of physicalailments.
Problem:Sexual abuse survivors—and their doctors—often don’t realize that their medical problems may stem from the abuse. What’s more, many people who were sexually abused are reluctant to mention it to their doctors because they feel shame and anxiety about what happened to them.
SEXUAL ABUSE And POOR HEALTH
Sexual abuse and other traumatic experiences have been shown to cause abnormal /unstable levels of the primary stress hormone cortisol, which can persist for years. Chronically elevated levels of cortisol can lead to inflammation, a contributing factor in major illnesses such as chronic fatigue syndrome, type 2 diabetes, arthritis, and even heart disease. Sexual abuse has been identified as a risk factor in asthma, hypertension, unwanted pregnancy, panic attacks, low thyroid, eating disorders, sleep disturbances, breast cancer, herpes, urinary tract infections, self-injury and more. Also, sexual abuse survivors have higher than average rates of drug and alcohol abuse, tobacco use, and risky sexual behavior—all of which can lead to lead a variety of health problems.
Other common physical health effects of sexual abuse…
Obesity.Interpersonal violence in childhood, including sexual abuse, has been found to be a risk factor in adult obesity. Unpleasant emotions, chronic stress, and disordered eating are thought to be involved. Survivors of sexual abuse may also overeat and become overweight as a form of self-soothing and/or a way of discouraging sexual advances.
Headaches.Even years after sexual abuse, survivors may frequently recall the abuse, fear revealing the abuse secret, have nightmares, and suffer sexual anxieties—all of which fuel muscular tension and emotional stress that encourage chronic headaches and migraines.
In a 2007 study of 161 patients with serious headache problems, a whopping 40% of those who suffered from chronic daily headaches also had a history of sexual and/or physical abuse.
Gastrointestinal (GI) disorders. In clinical settings, women and men who were sexually abused as children are more likely to report GI problems, such as irritable bowel syndrome, abdominal pain, diarrhea and nausea, than patients who were not abused. Some studies have found that as many as half of sexually abused women suffer from some type of GI symptom.
In addition, survivors of sexual abuse with GI problems report more medical symptoms, greater general pain, more lifetime surgeries and significantly higher amounts of disability due to the illness than non-sexually abused peers.
Fibromyalgia.Increasing evidence indicates that women who have been sexually abused are more likely to develop fibromyalgia, a syndrome characterized by chronic widespread pain, multiple “tender points” on various parts of the body, fatigue and sleep disturbances. (Fibromyalgia in men who have been sexually abused has not been widely studied.) On-going stress and depression related to abuse might be impairing sensory processing in the central nervous system, causing pain.
Chronic pelvic pain.Women who have been sexually abused tend to experience more chronic pelvic pain—50% by some estimates— including painful intercourse. One source of pelvic pain is vaginismus, a reflexive tightening of the vaginal muscles that can occur—even in loving sexual relationships—as women unconsciously seek to avoid further trauma or pain. Overtime, chronically tight vaginal muscles can shrink and atrophy, causing even more sexual difficulties. Male survivors have reported problems with recurrent rectal pain.
What survivors must do to help protect their health…
Don’t ignore your history.If you are a sexual abuse survivor who is concerned about or experiencing mental health problems, sexual problems, and/or unexplained physical ailments, seek professional help from a psychologist, counselor or certified sex therapist trained in sexual abuse treatment.
Classic sexual abuse recovery books, such as The Courage to Heal, Victims No Longer and The Sexual Healing Journey, offer effective healing strategies for both women and men. Also, investigate sexual abuse survivors’ groups and on-line resources such as Adult Survivors of Child Abuse (www.ascaSupport.org), Survivors of Incest Anonymous (www.siawso.org), and the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network (www.rainn.org).
Speak to your doctor.Talk candidly with your physician so that he/she can factor your sexual abuse history into preventive care and the diagnosis of any health problems. Informed health care workers can make a special effort to help you feel safe during invasive exams and procedures, such as Pap smears for women and prostate exams for men.
Be sure to adopt a healthy lifestyle.Develop daily health habits that keep you strong, reduce your stress levels, and decrease your risk for health problems. These include following a healthful diet… getting seven to eight hours of sleep per night…exercising three to five times a week…and learning body- and brain-calming techniques, such as yoga, tai chi and meditation. Physical therapy can be beneficial for treating pelvic pain disorders.
Pay attention to your sexual health.Sexual abuse is not only an attack on one’s body, but also an attack on one’s sexuality. It can establish negative sexual attitudes and behaviors that impair healthy intimacy and long-term sexual pleasure, such as approaching sex as an obligation, not feeling present during sex, and engaging in out-of-control, harmful and compulsive sex. You may need to “relearn”—or even learn for the first time—that sex can be an expression of mutual respect and caring in a loving relationship. Healing your sexuality allows you to tackle the root cause of trauma-related medical conditions, thus improving your mental health, as well as your physical well-being.
[Note: Article references are available upon request]
Wendy to teach Sex Therapy at the University of Oregon
Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST is pleased to announce that she has accepted the position of Adjunct Professor with the Couples and Family Therapy Graduate Program at the University of Oregon, in Eugene. She will teach a “Human Sexuality and Sex Therapy” class to be held Spring term 2012.
Earn CEU Credits for Reading “The Porn Trap”
If you are a counselor, therapist, or psychologist you can now earn 4 Continuing Education credits for reading our book, “The Porn Trap” and answering on-line test questions with Professional Development Resources. The book can help you recognize problems caused by porn, such as porn addiction and relationship distress, and it provides treatment strategies and techniques for quitting porn, helping couples heal, preventing and coping with relapses, and approaching touch and sex in ways that strengthen self-esteem and intimacy. It’s a win-win situation.
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Watch Excerpts of Wendy’s Acclaimed DVDs/Videos
You can now watch short video clips from Wendy Maltz’s two highly acclaimed couples sexual healing and intimacy videos, “Relearning Touch” and “Partners in Healing.” These videos are designed to help couples heal from the sexual repercussions of past sexual abuse and also develop skills for comfort with touch and improved sexual intimacy. Produced and moderated by Wendy Maltz, they feature real couples talking about their healing process.
The “Relearning Touch” video also provides sensitive (non-sexual) demonstrations of the relearning touch exercises described in Wendy’s book,The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
And we are also pleased to announce PRICES HAVE RECENTLY BEEN REDUCED ON BOTH OF THE VIDEOS!
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“Partners in Healing: Couples Overcoming the Sexual Repercussions of Incest”
The Intimate Effects of Pornography – on Doctor Radio
Now available! You can now listen to the information-packed one-hour interview Wendy provided for the Sirius Channel’s Sexual Health and Well-Being Doctor Radio show in July 2010. Here Wendy discusses porn addiction, relationship problems, and other harmful intimate effects of heavy porn use with host, Dr. Virginia Sadock. Suggestions for relationship and sexual healing are discussed, as well as questions answered from people who called in their stories to the show.
(Note: This recording features a 5 minute period of silence at the half hour which you can fast forward through to get to the second half of the show)
