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Welcome to the Healthy Sex blog. Here we share the latest news and information about Wendy’s media interviews, presentations, and publications. You can find blog posts listed according to topic categories such as Sex & Love, Sex Abuse Healing, Sexual Fantasy, Porn Recovery, Reflections on Sex, and more – as well as by the date posted.

Reflections on Sex (RoS) posts

“Reflections on Sex” is a special category of blog posts featured in the Healthy Sex blog. It is sometimes referred to using the abbreviation, RoS. These blog posts serve as a running column, like a newspaper column. In these writings, Wendy shares the most fascinating ideas and insights she gained about sex in her more than forty years of work as a sex educator and therapist. New “Reflections on Sex” blog posts are published about one a month and are highlighted on this page. To find out as soon as one is posted follow Wendy Maltz on Twitter or Facebook for announcements.

“Reflections on Sex” provides me an exciting opportunity to examine sex from old and new perspectives and share stories and ideas I haven’t written about before. I’m eager to tell you about the people, experiences, and discoveries that caught my attention and influenced my life. I hope you will find my observations entertaining as well as informative. Perhaps they will inspire you to reflect on your own journey with sex, how your views about it have changed, and what sex means to you.

Wendy Maltz

Healthy Sex Blog

“Private Thoughts” in “O” Oprah Magazine

Posted on September 29, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Uncategorized

We’re delighted to report that Wendy’s book, Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies (coauthored with writer Suzie Boss) received mention in the October 2015 issue of O, the Oprah Magazine (p. 127). Wendy was interviewed for a sidebar piece on “The Reality of Fantasy” which describes common types of women’s sexual fantasies as identified in the book. Wendy is quoted reflecting on the research she and Suzie did for the book, saying, “I was amazed by the wide range and level of creativity…You can never tell by the way a woman looks how rich and wild her fantasies are.”  Better believe it…too much fun!!!

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Wendy to Keynote SASH Conference – Philly 10/9/15

Posted on September 29, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Events, Porn Problem Recovery, Sexual Abuse Healing

Wendy Maltz will present a keynote lecture, “Let’s Talk About Sex: Sexual Nature, Harm, and Healing,” at the SASH conference on Friday October 9, 2015 at the Loews Hotel in Philadelphia. She plans to take the audience on a dynamic visual and story-telling journey to better understand what human sexuality is and how problems, such as sexual addiction, degrading pornography, and the experience of sexual abuse, interrelate and can reinforce one another. Wendy will identify key features of healthy sexual development and illuminate the power behind healthy sex principles and healing strategies. SASH stands for The Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health.  Last year Wendy received the SASH Carnes Award for her decades of work in the sexual recovery field and with the award comes this invitation to present.

Lowes Hotel, Philadelphia, Pennsylvannia

For information on the conference, CLICK HERE

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Treating Military Sexual Trauma — New Book!

Posted on August 30, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Reviews, Sexual Abuse Healing

Psychologist Lori S. Katz has just released an excellent and much-needed book,“Treating Military Sexual Trauma” (Springer Publishing, 2015). It features a chapter on healthy sexual functioning after military sexual trauma (MST) based on an interview Lori did with Wendy Maltz LCSW, DST.  The book addresses many aspects of recovery and covers topics such as understanding MST, neurobiology, sleep disorders, substance abuse recovery, body memories, cognitive processes, and the application of various counseling techniques for addressing the concerns of MST survivors. Kudos to Lori for creating such a comprehensive resource!

Treating Military Sexual Trauma by Lori S. Katz

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What’s Missing About Sex in Porn

Posted on June 22, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Porn Problem Recovery

Nic DiDomizio, a Mic.com sex & relationship columnist, discusses some important drawbacks of watching today’s pornography in his article entitled, “One Tweet Sums Up What’s Missing About Sex When We Watch Porn”.  The article was inspired by a tweet by a man named Kristian who tweeted: “Is there any gay porn where they go out on a date, fall madly in love w each other, have passionate sex, and cuddle at the end?” In his article, Nic shares how pornography emphasizes body parts and stimulation and ignores the emotional and partner-oriented dimensions of sex that contribute to sexual satisfaction in relationships. Consequently, porn may handicap people who are raised and rely on it as a sexual outlet. Nic interviews Wendy, mentions The Porn Trap and let’s readers know that there is a way to make up for lost learning.

Nicolas DiDomizio for Mic.com

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Lasting Love Connection – Sexual Healing Interview

Posted on June 5, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Sexual Abuse Healing

When couples suffer because they can’t open up about their sexual wounds it affects their intimacy. Wendy was recently interviewed by Luis Congdon on the hit marriage enrichment show – The LastingLoveConnection podcast. It’s featured many wonderful colleagues such as Dr. Harville Hendrix, Dr. Dan Siegel, Drs. John and Julie Gottman.

On the show we went in depth on how couples can support each other recover from sexual abuse. To listen to the show CLICK HERE or on the picture below:

 

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“What Sex After Sex Abuse Is Really Like” article

Posted on February 5, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Sexual Abuse Healing

Writer Tracy Clark-Flory provides readers a close look into the after-effects of sexual assault in a new article, “What Sex After Sexual Assault Is Really Like,” in the online magazine Refinery29. The piece features expert advice from sex therapist Wendy Maltz LCSW DST, and mentions, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse as a resource. Clark-Flory also discusses the wisdom of Wendy’s “relearning touch” exercises and the importance of moving slowly back into being sexual when recovering from this type of trauma. To read the article, CLICK HERE

In another article, writer Lucia Peters of Bustle magazine praises Clark-Flory for breaking the silence on discussing the the real problems and lasting effects that can result from sexual assault. To read this follow-up article, CLICK HERE.

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Porn Use and Marriageability – A Connection?

Posted on January 28, 2015 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Porn Problem Recovery

Does heavy pornography use reduce marriageability? A recent study of factors influencing when and whether a person marries by a German research group suggests it does. Writer Kelsey Clark discusses the study, interviews Wendy Maltz about what might be going on, and mentions The Porn Trap in a new article entitled, “Pornography Addiction: Another Reason for the U.S. Marriage Decline” in the Deseret News. To read the article, CLICK HERE.

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Polish translation of “The Porn Trap” now available

Posted on December 18, 2014 by Wendy Maltz - Porn Problem Recovery, Uncategorized

The Polish publishing house, Media Rodzina, has just released “The Porn Trap: The Essential Guide to Overcoming Problems Caused by Pornography” by Wendy Maltz and Larry Maltz in both e-book and paperback book formats. For more information and to order the book Click Here.

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Need to Educate Kids About Pornography – Schwartz article

Posted on November 17, 2014 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Porn Problem Recovery

Canadian journalist, Daniel Schwartz, discusses the rising need for parents and teachers to educate children about pornography in his article, “Pornography, kids, and sex education: what to do?” published online with CBC news. The article reveals how increasing numbers of children are viewing porn and turning to it for sex education. Several studies are sited revealing concerns teens have about the impact of porn on their understanding of sex, sexual relationships and intimacy. Wendy Maltz LCSW DST was interviewed for the article and she talked about the sexual conditioning that occurs with porn when it is coupled with arousal, and porn’s negative impact on sexual development and intimacy learning.  The Porn Trap was mentioned.

Click here to read the full article

Canadian journalist, Daniel Schwartz

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Wendy Receives the SASH Carnes Award

Posted on October 29, 2014 by Wendy Maltz - Events, Porn Problem Recovery, Sexual Abuse Healing

Wendy Maltz, LCSW, DST, received the prestigious Carnes Award from the Society for the Advancement of Sexual Health for “her outstanding work in the field of sexual addiction.” Dr. Patrick Carnes presented the award on October 25, 2014 at the SASH National Conference in Portland, Oregon.

Carnes described Wendy as a pioneer who “was one of the first of all of us to really see the significance of cybersex and its impact on sexual health.” He praised her for helping to bridge various sexual health and treatment communities with the sex addict recovery communities, and for her enduring commitment to “making sex not only safe, but fun.”

Wendy Maltz receiving the Carnes Award from Dr. Patrick Carnes at the 2014 SASH conference

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