Check out this interview Wendy gave for Luis Congdon’s “Thriving Launch” relationship podcast to learn about sexual healing techniques and basic principles of sexual recovery. Find out how it’s possible to overcome negative repercussions with patience, smarts, and new touch experiences. “Love is stronger than abuse”
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About the Healthy Sex Blog
Welcome to the Healthy Sex blog. Here we share the latest news and information about Wendy’s media interviews, presentations, and publications. You can find blog posts listed according to topic categories such as Sex & Love, Sex Abuse Healing, Sexual Fantasy, Porn Recovery, Reflections on Sex, and more – as well as by the date posted.
Reflections on Sex (RoS) posts
“Reflections on Sex” is a special category of blog posts featured in the Healthy Sex blog. It is sometimes referred to using the abbreviation, RoS. These blog posts serve as a running column, like a newspaper column. In these writings, Wendy shares the most fascinating ideas and insights she gained about sex in her more than forty years of work as a sex educator and therapist. New “Reflections on Sex” blog posts are published periodically and are highlighted on this page. To find out as soon as one is posted follow Wendy Maltz on Twitter or Facebook for announcements.
“Reflections on Sex” provides me an exciting opportunity to examine sex from old and new perspectives and share stories and ideas I haven’t written about before. I’m eager to tell you about the people, experiences, and discoveries that caught my attention and influenced my life. I hope you will find my observations entertaining as well as informative. Perhaps they will inspire you to reflect on your own journey with sex, how your views about it have changed, and what sex means to you.
Wendy Maltz
Healthy Sex Blog
Kids’ Brains on Porn, Etelson article
Today’s kids may be getting way more than an eyeful if they stumble upon hardcore porn on the internet according to Erica Etelson, a children’s environmental health activist and mother writing in parents.co. In her new article ,“This Is Your Kids Brain on Porn,” Erica talks about how easy it is for kids to see porn and how harmful it can be to their young minds and developing sexuality. Erica interviews Wendy and several other professionals about the growing problem. The Porn Trap is mentioned.and Erica offers suggestions for how parents can protect their children and help them when viewing does occur.
CLICK HERE to read the article, or go to:
http://www.parent.co/this-is-your-kids-brain-on-porn/
Trump Causing Sex Turn-Off – Huff Post Article
In a new article entitled, “Post Election, Survivors of Assault are Struggling to Have Sex Again,” Huffington Post reporter, Catherine Pearson, explores how Trump’s shocking election win has been re-traumatizing sexual abuse survivors and causing sex and intimacy problems. She quotes Wendy Maltz about the phenomenon and mentions The Sexual Healing Journey as a resource. Catherine discusses how Trump’s physical characteristics and his getting away with perpetrating sexual assaults can trigger a BIG TURN-OFF to sex. Survivors may experience Trump’s having been voted into the highest office in the land by others as a betrayal by society and a dismissal of the seriousness of sex abuse. As depressing as it may be, it can be helpful to keep in mind the fact that, regardless of who’s president: We all have the right and power to define and make sex what we want it to be in our own lives and loving relationships.
Wendy on Dear Sugars Radio Show – Pt. 1
Concerned about pornography? Come listen to a dynamic conversation Wendy Maltz LCSW DST, coauthor of The Porn Trap, had on the nationally acclaimed Dear Sugars radio program with Cheryl Strayed (author of Wild) and writer/co-host Steve Almond. This is the first of two episodes in which we spoke (Part One, Episode 79). In this initial part, we respond to a letter from a man trying to evaluate if he has a problem with porn and whether his regular interactions with it could be harming his marriage. Open, frank, and, at times, funny, this program will entertain, enlighten, and inform.
CLICK HERE to access a recording of the show (Part One, Episode 79)
Wendy Discusses Sexual Healing on “The Sexual Voice”
Wendy Maltz LCSW DST is a featured guest on The Sexual Voice/ Voice America radio show on Friday, October 7, 2016 at 12 noon (pacific time) . The episode is entitled “I was robbed!: Sexual abuse and the loss of sexual self.” Host Jessica Ford MA, MSW, LCSW, and Wendy take a close look at the impact of sexual abuse on sexuality and discuss ways that survivors can move forward to heal. The episode has a military focus, providing information about issues pertinent to people who experienced sexual abuse in the military. Mike Lew M.ED., an esteemed national expert on male sexual abuse survivor recovery, is also featured in a segment of the show.
Tune in live or Listen anytime to a recording at The Sexual Voice: CLICK HERE.
Bookshare for the Blind has Wendy’s Books
People who have difficulty reading traditional print books can now access five of Wendy Maltz’s books — The Sexual Healing Journey, Private Thoughts, Intimate Kisses, Passionate Hearts, and The Porn Trap — on the Bookshare.org website.
Bookshare is a service of the American Foundation for the Blind. It provides high quality text to speech voices, digital braille, and other user-friendly formats for a wide array of books. Due to an agreement with major publishers, this wonderful no-cost service enables people with visual impairment, physical disability, or severe learning disability to read the books that matter most to them. HealthySex.com made this happen based on the suggestion from a caring woman with visual impairment who contacted us and who wanted the books available for herself and others.
To access Wendy’s books on Bookshare: CLICK HERE
Fighting Rape Myths with Empathy – Rosenthal article
A new voice — a smart, heartfelt read. Marina Rosenthal, teacher and therapist at the University of Oregon, has written an illuminating article in the Huffington Post on her experiences teaching about rape myths and sexual assault in the classroom setting.
It was my pleasure to advise and work with Marina on this article. I’m so impressed with her writing, compassion, and insights. What’s more, Marina now has her own blog on Huffington Post and we can look forward to more articles of hers in the future!
Marina Rosenthal, HuffPost Blogger
Alanis Morissette and Wendy Talk Love, Sex, and Healing
Singer/Songwriter Alanis Morissette interviewed Wendy Maltz for her “Conversation with Alanis” podcast (Episode 5). It aired on Monday, Feb 8, 2016 and can be accessed at anytime thereafter, at no charge.
In this dynamic, funny, and heartfelt conversation, Alanis and Wendy, reveal much about love, sex, porn issues, sexual healing, fantasies, and more. It is a great interview and really showcases Alanis’ powerful work as a catalyst for personal growth and relationship healing. With this episode, Alanis breaks new ground talking candidly and deeply about sexual issues, and, by example, encouraging others to do the same.
Click here for more information on the podcast episode.
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As prep for her listeners, Alanis posted Wendy’s article “The Porn Trap” (aka “Is Porn Bad for You?”/”Out of the Shadow” on her blog.
Irish Times advice: Read The Porn Trap
Illustration: Todd Davidson/The Image Bank via Getty Images
Can a porn habit get in the way of a healthy sex and social life? You bet it can. A young man recently wrote Trish Murphy of the Irish Times that he feels his use of porn has made him anxious about, as well as disinterested in, the real thing. Murphy responded to him in her popular advice column, suggesting that he not only get help to quit porn, using The Porn Trap as a resource, but also that he get some help to overcome his social anxiety. Sadly, this man’s story is not uncommon, as we increasingly hear from young people who have never had real, human-to-human sex, that their heavy involvement with porn has given them a serious handicap when it comes to forming a sexual relationship. The good news is that once porn is no longer controlling the experience, change is possible.
CLICK HERE to link to the advice column article, “Tell Me About It: My life is slipping away from me due to my porn habit.”
Wendy’s Couples Sexual Healing Videos — Watch Here for Free
We are pleased to announce that, as a gift to survivors and others, Wendy’s two highly-acclaimed sexual healing videos, “Relearning Touch” and “Partners in Healing,” are now available for free viewing here at HealthySex.com. The videos were co-produced with Intervision Media, a Eugene-based business, and have a long-history of being used and praised in therapeutic, educational, and individual self-help settings. Read their amazing reviews, learn more, and if you like, view them by visiting their pages on this site.
“Relearning Touch: Healing Techniques for Couples”
discusses and sensitively demonstrates the ground-breaking, highly beneficial relearning touch exercises described in Wendy’s book, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
“Partners in Healing: Couples Overcoming the Sexual Repercussions of Incest”
focuses on the crisis in intimacy faced by couples and how they learn to work as a team in healing.
Hand to Heart exercise demonstrated in “Relearning Touch” video
