About the Healthy Sex Blog
Welcome to the Healthy Sex blog. Here we share the latest news and information about Wendy’s media interviews, presentations, and publications. You can find blog posts listed according to topic categories such as Sex & Love, Sex Abuse Healing, Sexual Fantasy, Porn Recovery, Reflections on Sex, and more – as well as by the date posted.
Reflections on Sex (RoS) posts
“Reflections on Sex” is a special category of blog posts featured in the Healthy Sex blog. It is sometimes referred to using the abbreviation, RoS. These blog posts serve as a running column, like a newspaper column. In these writings, Wendy shares the most fascinating ideas and insights she gained about sex in her more than forty years of work as a sex educator and therapist. New “Reflections on Sex” blog posts are published about one a month and are highlighted on this page. To find out as soon as one is posted follow Wendy Maltz on Twitter or Facebook for announcements.
Healthy Sex Blog
Concerned about pornography? Come listen to a dynamic conversation Wendy Maltz LCSW DST, coauthor of The Porn Trap, had on the nationally acclaimed Dear Sugars radio program with Cheryl Strayed (author of Wild) and writer/co-host Steve Almond. This is the first of two episodes in which we spoke (Part One, Episode 79). In this initial part, we respond to a letter from a man trying to evaluate if he has a problem with porn and whether his regular interactions with it could be harming his marriage. Open, frank, and, at times, funny, this program will entertain, enlighten, and inform.
Wendy Maltz LCSW DST is a featured guest on The Sexual Voice/ Voice America radio show on Friday, October 7, 2016 at 12 noon (pacific time) . The episode is entitled “I was robbed!: Sexual abuse and the loss of sexual self.” Host Jessica Ford MA, MSW, LCSW, and Wendy take a close look at the impact of sexual abuse on sexuality and discuss ways that survivors can move forward to heal. The episode has a military focus, providing information about issues pertinent to people who experienced sexual abuse in the military. Mike Lew M.ED., an esteemed national expert on male sexual abuse survivor recovery, is also featured in a segment of the show.
Tune in live or Listen anytime to a recording at The Sexual Voice: CLICK HERE.
People who have difficulty reading traditional print books can now access five of Wendy Maltz’s books — The Sexual Healing Journey, Private Thoughts, Intimate Kisses, Passionate Hearts, and The Porn Trap — on the Bookshare.org website.
Bookshare is a service of the American Foundation for the Blind. It provides high quality text to speech voices, digital braille, and other user-friendly formats for a wide array of books. Due to an agreement with major publishers, this wonderful no-cost service enables people with visual impairment, physical disability, or severe learning disability to read the books that matter most to them. HealthySex.com made this happen based on the suggestion from a caring woman with visual impairment who contacted us and who wanted the books available for herself and others.
To access Wendy’s books on Bookshare: CLICK HERE
A new voice — a smart, heartfelt read. Marina Rosenthal, teacher and therapist at the University of Oregon, has written an illuminating article in the Huffington Post on her experiences teaching about rape myths and sexual assault in the classroom setting.
It was my pleasure to advise and work with Marina on this article. I’m so impressed with her writing, compassion, and insights. What’s more, Marina now has her own blog on Huffington Post and we can look forward to more articles of hers in the future!
Singer/Songwriter Alanis Morissette interviewed Wendy Maltz for her “Conversation with Alanis” podcast (Episode 5). It aired on Monday, Feb 8, 2016 and can be accessed at anytime thereafter, at no charge.
In this dynamic, funny, and heartfelt conversation, Alanis and Wendy, reveal much about love, sex, porn issues, sexual healing, fantasies, and more. It is a great interview and really showcases Alanis’ powerful work as a catalyst for personal growth and relationship healing. With this episode, Alanis breaks new ground talking candidly and deeply about sexual issues, and, by example, encouraging others to do the same.
Click here for more information on the podcast episode.
Can a porn habit get in the way of a healthy sex and social life? You bet it can. A young man recently wrote Trish Murphy of the Irish Times that he feels his use of porn has made him anxious about, as well as disinterested in, the real thing. Murphy responded to him in her popular advice column, suggesting that he not only get help to quit porn, using The Porn Trap as a resource, but also that he get some help to overcome his social anxiety. Sadly, this man’s story is not uncommon, as we increasingly hear from young people who have never had real, human-to-human sex, that their heavy involvement with porn has given them a serious handicap when it comes to forming a sexual relationship. The good news is that once porn is no longer controlling the experience, change is possible.
CLICK HERE to link to the advice column article, “Tell Me About It: My life is slipping away from me due to my porn habit.”
We are pleased to announce that, as a gift to survivors and others, Wendy’s two highly-acclaimed sexual healing videos, “Relearning Touch” and “Partners in Healing,” are now available for free viewing here at HealthySex.com. The videos were co-produced with Intervision Media, a Eugene-based business, and have a long-history of being used and praised in therapeutic, educational, and individual self-help settings. Read their amazing reviews, learn more, and if you like, view them by visiting their pages on this site.
“Relearning Touch: Healing Techniques for Couples”
discusses and sensitively demonstrates the ground-breaking, highly beneficial relearning touch exercises described in Wendy’s book, The Sexual Healing Journey: A Guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse.
“Partners in Healing: Couples Overcoming the Sexual Repercussions of Incest”
focuses on the crisis in intimacy faced by couples and how they learn to work as a team in healing.
How cool is this? The very talented and socially conscious singer, songwriter Alanis Morisette recommends Private Thoughts: Exploring the Power of Women’s Sexual Fantasies in her blog. A big supporter of efforts to realize sex as a healthy, positive aspect of life, Alanis writes, “This book explores fantasy and the purpose it serves and how it can enhance connection and pleasure and a sense of self.”
Are you dealing with the repercussions of past sexual abuse in an intimate relationship? Or concerned about a future relationship? If so, you will find lots of information, insights and advice listening to the engaging interview Wendy Maltz gave for the new podcast show, Relationship Alive! Hosted by Neil Sattin, his podcast is devoted to helping couples improve their relationship and have good sex lives. Wendy’s interview, “Deeper Intimacy Through Sexual Healing,” is pretty comprehensive, covering topics such as: What is sexual abuse and what are the sexual problems it can cause?, What is involved in healing sexual concerns, How to work as a team in sexual healing, and What are the key exercises that can help survivors and their intimate partners reclaim a healthy and enjoyable sexuality. This episode also focused on issues related to pornography and its impact. Wendy’s books, The Sexual Healing Journey, and, The Porn Trap, are discussed.
To listen to the podcast, CLICK HERE