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¿Cuál es tu mentalidad sexual? Tabla comparativa

Posted on April 5, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Porn Problem Recovery, Sex & Love, Sexual Abuse Healing

Comparación de la actitud mental hacia las prácticas sexual

El aprender a distinguir una sexualidad saludable de otras prácticas sexuales te empodera a adoptar una vida sexual saludable en tu vida y en tus relaciones. A continuación encontrarás una tabla comparativa en cual se contrastan las perspectivas del sexo saludable en oposición al sexo abusivo o sexo como adicción. Pon atención a cualquier dato que te pueda interesar o confundir. Quizá quieras discutirlo con tus amistades, terapeuta o educadores de salud para aclarar bien las diferencias. El tener claro cómo piensas acerca del sexo tiene un gran efecto en cómo tú y tu pareja lo experimentan y lo sienten.

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The Hazards of Porn

Posted on April 5, 2022 by Jennifer Andrews - Porn Problem Recovery

What would it look like if pornography came with a warning label?

This easy-to-read chart outlines the range of potential problems that can develop from steady and/or heavy use of pornography. Read it on your computer. Print it out and pin it up on the wall. It’s a great way to remind yourself or someone you love that using porn can result in some pretty negative, unsexy, consequences.

The following poster is free and easy to download with programs that read pdf files. You can download it in two sizes: 8 ½” X 11” (standard letter size) or 11” X 17” (tabloid poster size).

Feel free to make as many copies as you like and share them with others as you desire. They are designed as an educational tool and can be posted at home, work, or school settings.

Do You Know the Difference? (Porn-related Sex vs Healthy Sex)

Posted on April 5, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Porn Problem Recovery

Yes, porn is filled with sex … but what type of sex it depicts, is another matter.

This easy-to-read “Do You Know the Difference? (Porn-related Sex vs Healthy Sex) comparison chart is a great way to start learning about how real-life, healthy, love-based, sexual sharing differs from the type of sex most often portrayed in porn.

The following poster is free and easy to download with programs that read pdf files. You can download it in two sizes: 8 ½” X 11” (standard letter size) or 11” X 17” (tabloid poster size).

Feel free to make as many copies as you like and share them with others as you desire. It is designed as an educational tool and can be posted at home, work, or school settings.

To download, right-click on the link and select “Save to Desktop.”

Click here to view a larger version.

Download: Standard Letter Size (280k) | Tabloid Poster Size (516k)

Supportive Messages to Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Posted on April 5, 2022 by Lily McAndrews - Sexual Abuse Healing

Personal empowerment is a key focus to have when healing from sexual abuse. After all, by definition, sex abuse is an act that involves a tremendous loss of personal safety and control.

In the following four videos, Wendy Maltz shares beneficial messages to help survivors get started on a healing journey to reclaim their personal power and right to enjoy a healthy sex life, of their own making.

Created for the launch of El viaje para sanar la sexualidad, the Spanish edition of her book, The Sexual Healing Journey, these words provide understanding, encouragement, comfort, and hope.

Message 1 – You are not alone

If you were sexually victimized, you are not alone. It is a sad fact that millions of women and men have experienced this type of trauma and harm. It is not unusual for sexual abuse to cause problems with sex and intimacy, years after the abuse, especially when you get in a steady relationship. But regardless of your circumstances, recovery is possible and can be achieved.

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Message 2 – You can benefit from good resources

Intimacy problems do not easily go away on their own. Sexual abuse survivors need to experience caring support and good resources, such as El viaje para sanar la sexualidad, to learn how to heal and create sex that is positive, and very different from abuse.

Message 3 – You don’t have to suffer in silence

Sexual abuse survivors often suffer in silence, secrecy, and shame — blaming themselves for the abuse, and its impact, even though it was not their fault. Sexual healing involves developing compassion for yourself, taking control of your life now, and being able to create what you want for yourself and your intimate relationship.

Message 4 – Healing from abuse is worth the effort

Sexual healing can be challenging. But it’s worth the effort. You learn new ideas, develop compassion for yourself, and practice new approaches to touch and sexual sharing. The good news is that healing is possible, even in this intimate area.

Sexual health is a gift you give yourself, your relationship, and by extension, your family, and community. When you reclaim your sexuality, you reclaim yourself.

Hooked on Porn?

Posted on April 4, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Porn Problem Recovery

When does porn use become a serious problem? And what can you do to heal if you already know it is a concern? Dr. Nazanin Moali, sexuality expert and host of the Sexology Podcast, invites Wendy back on her program to talk about porn addiction and recovery. They discuss the pros and cons of porn use, how to recognize serious problems, the impact on intimate partners, and what it takes to personally and sexually heal when a person wants out of porn. This is a lively discussion filled with straight talk and an abundance of sexual healing specifics.

In this episode, you will hear:

Is porn usage problematic?
The consequences of using porn compulsively
How we weren’t ready as a society for the amount of porn the internet provided
How between 8-15% of people who use porn will go on to develop a problem with it
Steps that can be taken to deal with unhealthy porn use
Recovering from porn addiction
Hearing how a listener’s husband went through the process of recovery
Ongoing side effects, such as not being able to have sex without images of porn
How mindfulness and yoga can help with recovery
Sexually reconnecting with your partner after porn addiction

Hooked on Porn? Dr. Nazanin Moali with Wendy Maltz, Sexology Podcast, Episode 107, 1-22-2019.

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Quitting Porn and Overcoming Porn-Related Problems

Posted on April 3, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Porn Problem Recovery

Gary Wilson, host of the radio show, Your Brain in the CyberSex Jungle, and Wendy continue their discussion of today’s porn (in Episode 6) and explore the sexual recovery issues people face when they move to quit porn. They emphasize the importance of becoming educated about porn in order to come out of shame and isolation and get help. The shame men feel is less about sex, and more about feeling ashamed that they have lost control over their own sexuality.

In this follow-up interview Wendy and Gary discuss:

The common problems people run into when they try to quit
Why denial is the first stage of recovery
Recognizing the dependency on porn
Underestimating the power of porn
Quitting porn can be as difficult as quitting smoking….it’s tough
Going back to using porn is easy given all the sexual stimulation in the media
There are lots of rationalizations that support continued porn use
Whether or not it’s a good idea to masturbate when quitting porn
How to approach touch and sex in a new way
How to reconnect your penis with your heart and feelings
How to be more present and in your body
How to open to full-body sensuality

Listen to Episode 11, 12-11-2012 here.

Opening the Door to Sexual Fantasies

Posted on April 2, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Understanding Sexual Fantasies

Tapping into the power of sexual fantasies is a doorway to our deepest selves, where profound healing can be met with ecstatic play. In this riveting conversation, Wendy Strgar, host of the Opening Door radio show, talks with Wendy Maltz about sexual fantasy to better understand and appreciate this mysterious realm of human experience. Together they reveal how exploring our sexual fantasies can provide us with insights into our innermost thoughts, feelings, needs, and delights.

Join the two Wendys in exploring:

The types of sexual fantasy concerns people share in therapy
How sexual fantasies are like dreams
Why it’s difficult to acknowledge and talk about our sexual fantasies
How early experiences can influence our sexual fantasies
How to get more comfortable with your sexual fantasies
Why sexual fantasizing is not “cheating” on a partner
Whether or not it’s a good idea to act out sexual fantasies
How to take a closer look at your sexual fantasies to heal ones that bother you

Listen here

or here (mp3)

Sexual Fantasies, Wendy Strgar interviews Wendy Maltz, The Opening Door, Show 20, 2-9-2013

The Soul of Sexual Poetry

Posted on March 30, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Sex & Love

How can sexual love poetry enrich our sexual lives, relationships, and sensual experiences? Find out in this wonderfully engaging conversation between Francesca Gentille, host of the Sex: Tantra & Kama Sutra podcast, and Wendy Maltz, author/editor of two award-winning sexual love poetry anthologies – Passionate Hearts: The Poetry of Sexual Love and Intimate Kisses: The Poetry of Sexual Pleasure. Their unique discussion is peppered with Wendy reading poems from her collections by well-known poets, such as Marge Piercy, Octavio Pax, Nikki Giovanni, and others — and Francesca sharing insights on love and soul-connected sex from her many years teaching Tantric sexual practices.

Topics covered include:

How Wendy’s interest in sexual love poetry emerged from her counseling work with survivors of sexual abuse and others.
How people use the collections for sex education, healing, and inspiration
The pleasure and value of reading sexual love poetry aloud to a partner
How erotic poetry is able to describe sex well because it highlights elements in nature and “blends the senses”
The yin-yang beauty and nature of touch
How creating the collections inspired Wendy to write her own erotic poems

Personal Life Media, Sex: Tantra & Kama Sutra podcast, Episode 40: 2007.

Listen to the podcast interview here

Listen and read a transcript here

Is Porn Wrong?

Posted on March 30, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Media Interviews, Porn Problem Recovery

Cheryl Strayed and Steve Almond, hosts of the WBUR Dear Sugars Podcast, share a lively discussion with Wendy Maltz on National Public Radio about the personal and relationship problems porn is causing and whether or not it’s a good idea to use it. This interview is so popular it has been repeatedly aired several times over the years. This episode was originally published on December 1, 2016. It features questions from listeners.

Situations discussed include:

A happily married man who goes online to masturbate to porn three times a week and wonders if it is harming him and his marriage, even though he is honest with his wife about what he’s doing.

A woman in her late 20s is concerned about how much her boyfriend uses porn and how at times he seems to prefer it over being with her.

Cheryl, Steve, and Wendy go into detail about the different perspectives on porn that users and nonusers often have, the impact of a porn problem on an intimate partner, feelings of ambivalence concerning porn, and the challenges porn use can present to a couple when there is a desire for deeper emotional closeness. Wendy provides insight and tools for evaluating whether or not porn is causing serious problems or could in the future. Intelligent and rich, this conversation goes deep.

Redux: Is Porn Wrong? WBUR, 3-27-2021

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Incest & Sexuality

Posted on March 27, 2022 by Wendy Maltz - Sexual Abuse Healing

Incest and Sexuality: A Guide to Understanding and Healing by Wendy Maltz and Beverly Holman

Written for adult incest survivors, their intimate partners, and therapists, Incest & Sexuality was the first psychology resource to detail how sexuality is influenced by early abuse and explain what steps can be taken to reclaim a positive, healthy sexual attitude. Wendy remembers writing it by hand on a yellow legal pad and later literally “cutting and pasting” (with scissors and glue!!!) the typed versions of early drafts to make edits. While understandably a bit dated now, given how old it is, it remains a groundbreaking healing guide filled with stories, concepts, and heart-felt ideas that are timeless and still relevant to people today.

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Incest and Sexuality is a professional classic. It was first published by Lexington Books in 1987 and later republished by Jossey-Bass until it went out of print. It sold over 80,000 copies. ISBN: 066914083-X hardcover, ISBN: 066914085-6 paperback.

To order hard copy out of print versions, see: Amazon | Barnes and Noble

Preface

Introduction

Sexuality: Why Bother?
The Exploitation of Children
Family Influences: Fathers, mothers, children, family patterns
How Survivors Coped during Molestations
Effects of Incest on Self-Concept
Messages about Sexuality and Sex Roles
Anxieties about Relationships
How Incest Affects Sexuality: Emergence, orientation, experience
How Survivors Can Help Themselves
Survivors and Partners Working Together
Getting Professional Help
The Survivor’s Choice
Appendixes and Resources

Praise for Incest and Sexuality:

“This book is a splendid resource for both laypersons and professional; it provides practical self-help information for adult survivors of child sexual abuse and valuable insights for clinicians.”
–Suzanne Sgroi, M.D.

“The book is clear, well-organized, and well-written. It fills the gap for in-depth information about the impact of child sexual trauma on the adult survivor’s sexuality. It will serve as a valuable resource to both clinician and survivor.”
–Dr. Eliana Gil, author of Outgrowing the Pain

Library items

¿Cuál es tu mentalidad sexual? Tabla comparativa

Comparación de la actitud mental hacia las prácticas sexual

Cartel gratis

The Hazards of Porn

What would it look like if pornography came with a warning label?

Do You Know the Difference? (Porn-related Sex vs Healthy Sex)

Yes, porn is filled with sex … but what type of sex it depicts, is another matter.

Supportive Messages to Survivors of Sexual Abuse

Message 1 – You are not alone

Message 2 – You can benefit from good resources

Message 3 – You don’t have to suffer in silence

Message 4 – Healing from abuse is worth the effort

Hooked on Porn?

In this episode, you will hear:

Quitting Porn and Overcoming Porn-Related Problems

In this follow-up interview Wendy and Gary discuss:

Opening the Door to Sexual Fantasies

Join the two Wendys in exploring:

The Soul of Sexual Poetry

Topics covered include:

Is Porn Wrong?

Situations discussed include:

Incest & Sexuality

Now available for FREE DOWNLOAD

at THE INTERNATIONAL PSYCHOTHERAPY INSTITUTE’S

FREE PSYCHOTHERAPY BOOKS PROGRAM

Table of Contents

Praise for Incest and Sexuality:

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